I’ve done a couple of tag posts before but I found this one and there’s a lot of different questions compared to the ones I’ve done before so I thought I’d give this one a go! If you want to check out any of my other tag posts then click here – right, let’s get stuck in…
How old were you when you had your first child? – 23
What was the hardest thing about being pregnant for 9 months? – I would definitely say the uncertainty; especially in the first 12 weeks. You go to the GP and they just take your word for it that you’re pregnant because tests are pretty effective these days. But how do they know? You wait for weeks for that first appointment letter, just to see your baby for the first time and check they’re safe. I’m not a patient person so going through 9 months of pregnancy was not ideal.
Can you think of any good things you enjoyed during those 9 months? – I found pregnancy really difficult, especially towards then end, I’ve even written about my pregnancy journey and my lack of enthusiasm for the whole ordeal. Looking back now, I enjoyed the moments where I was just sat in my comfy clothes, feeling my baby kick around. I also loved getting his nursery ready and picking out things like furniture.
In your opinion, were all the things you heard about childbirth accurate or way off? – A mix of both I think. It definitely hurts, like nothing else I’ve ever experienced that was true and I’ve mostly forgotten the actual pain now. No-one told me it could go on for so bloody long and just how exhausted I would be before I even got to the hospital. You can read about my labour and delivery story in more detail here.
Would you have handled childbirth differently if you could re-do it? – I don’t know what I could do differently other than try and be more calm but when you’re going into labour for the first time it’s pretty hard to stay calm as you have no idea what to expect! I’d also try and get some more sleep before we went in to hospital, I was so tired before I was even in proper established labour.
What would be your advice for someone who is about to have a baby? – I would say that you need to be kind to yourself. Even though you’ve had 9 months to prepare, your life still changes overnight and it’s a LOT to adjust to. It’s OK to not be happy, it’s OK to not have an instant connection, it’s not OK to keep it to yourself; find someone you trust to confide in. Also, get in all of your favourite snacks, like bulk buy!
What has been the hardest thing about being a mum? – I’ve found that being a mum can be really lonely. Finding a handful of good friends that you can rely on is important, even if it’s just one friend, you need a place to vent. Also, making it out of the house with baby is a mission but so important – fresh air will totally help you both.
What has been the most rewarding thing about being a mum? – Anything that makes George smile is rewarding to me. When he giggles because I’m tickling his belly or smiling because he’s just mastered a new skill and it super proud of himself my heart just melts. He’s *generally* a very happy and content little boy who I’m so lucky to have.
What was the most surprising thing you discovered about being a mum? – How many different ways there are to do things and that some people are very strong in trying to advise you how to do things. Types of nappies, feeding, weaning, sleeping… You’ll get unsolicited advice from a lot of other parents once you have a baby of your own. You know what’s best for your baby, don’t feel like you have to justify yourself or your decisions for your family.
What is the best memory you have involving your child? – When he started babbling as if he was trying to have a conversation with us; we got the first glance of what his little voice will be like when he talks. Now he non-stop rambles on and I love when he wants to tell me about something.
What was the most exciting milestone? – I think when he was able to sit up on his own was such an amazing time as he could start to properly play with his toys and see the world from a new angle. He then started properly noticing Louie (the cat) as well and hasn’t left him alone since.
What is the worst thing your child has ever done? – He’s not really old enough for me to have embarrassing stories of him weeing in a display toilet or anything like that. In terms of the worst memory I have, it would be when George was really poorly at about 4 weeks old and we had to spend a few nights in hospital with suspected sepsis. I did write about it in my 1 month update if you wanted to know more.
What habit did you wish your child didn’t have? – George goes through phases of grinding his teeth and it puts me so on edge, I literally cannot stand it. Luckily at the moment he’s not doing it!
What habit of theirs makes you most proud? – He’s a really smiley boy, like he’s very content a lot of the time which makes things easier. People always comment on what a good baby he is which is nice. He’s not like that all the time though…
Do you share any similarities with your child (both Physical and Personality)? – We both get super angry when we’re hungry and are definitely not morning people! We both love a cuddle and an afternoon nap. In terms of physical appearance, he looks a LOT like Charlie but I think he might have my nose, we both also have multiple chins but his are cute.
Where would you like your child to be in 10 years? – He’ll be in his last year of primary school so I would like him to be excited for moving to secondary school with good friends and nice manners. I’d like him to have something he really cares about, like a sport or hobby, and above all, wherever he is I want him to be happy.
What is something that having a child has taught you? – I would say patience but that would be a lie, I still have none. Having a child has taught me to stick to my guns, in a lot of elements of my life I avoid confrontation but when it comes to George I have to be strong in what I want for him.
Did you imagine that you’d be a mum at the age that you became a mum? – I did think it would be a couple of years later to be honest but I always wanted to have my first baby by the time I was 25 so it’s not a big difference.
Describe your child in a single sentence? – George is my entire world and the reason for my happiness.
How have you changed as a person since becoming a mom? – I’m a lot more tired, definitely more stressed but my heart has grown an enormous amount.
So that’s it for my most recent Mum Tag! I’d love to see your answers to the questions so either leave them in the comments or send me a link to your post – look forward to reading them!